You Can’t Judge Something That You Never Had

Do you know a true story that happened in 2010? It’s about an elderly Canadian couple who won $11.2million on the lottery and instead of claimed it for themselves, they have given it all away to friends, charities and hospitals. It was a big news because it never happened before. The couple said, they played lottery only for fun, without aim to win any money and as they won and shared all the lottery money, they wisely said ‘What you’ve never had, you never miss’

Some people, for sure, disagree with that statement. People who (think) don’t have enough money always want to have more, aren’t they? Even my self! But then, I never had $11.2million before, so I don’t know if I could handle it well, so yes, I don’t miss it.

Here I won’t write about money though… I want to write about something else, something that some people don’t have or don’t want; children.

I believe most parents have a very special strong feeling to their children. You know, we call it unconditional love or a blessing gift ever or the best thing in life or love without border or (this is absolutely true!) having a child is like having a heart that walks outside my body… and more such sentiments. A childless person, in the opposite, can not feel this feeling and some might jealous about it, some don’t care about it and some even feel awesome no need to have this feeling at all… which is fine.

What I’m saying is, if you don’t want to be a parent, if you decide don’t want to have any children, that’s absolutely ok, you won’t miss anything… You won’t miss that unconditional love, love without border, etc. feeling because you can’t miss something that you never had. But unfortunately some people with their child free lifestyle, who said they are happy to live without children put their happiness in question by insult children or parents life. I just don’t get it, how can voluntary childless people judge parents?! Judge something they never had, never felt, never experienced? They don’t know how is it to be parents, do they?

People have different standard for happiness. Some are happy with children, some are happy without children…and here I have a doubt that; a person who claimed that she/ he’s happy to be child free but keep talking about how bad children and parents are, is a happy person. Or? What do you think?

So… Have a nice evening and be kind everyone ❤

-beth-